STRICTLY FOR THE GUYS

These are some of beliefs of men when they see an attractive girl and want to approach her.

Belief:

She probably has a boyfriend.

Second thought

If she is in a bar/club, she is less likely to. You are just a fun

sociable guy being friendly, if she has a boyfriend, you can still

have a nice interaction and not lose anything. There is always

a reason not to approach, you CAN approach any girl you

choose. Most pretty girls have boyfriends of some description.

You can both increase your female social circle and meet all

her friends, or maybe she isn’t so serious about her man and

You’ll easily be able to take his place. The average girl in a

relationship is single within 3 months.

Belief:

I don’t know what to say.

Second thought:

You can fall back on an opener that you know very well. What

to say next? This is much harder. In that moment when you

run out of things to say and get stuck, if you stick in there,

this is when you are really pushing yourself, like the last few

reps at the gym. Feel that pressure and learn to enjoy it, and handle it like a man. What you say is less important than how

you say it and how comfortable you appear.

Belief:

I’m too old for her.

Second thought:

It’s completely acceptable and even desirable in most cultures

for older men to date younger women. You are competing

against guys that lack wisdom, worldliness, experience. You

would be surprised by how much women like older men. The

logical fact of your age is less important than how she feels

when she is with you. If it is not an issue for you, it won’t be

an issue for her.

Belief:

I’m too young for her.

Second thought:

If you are 19 and she is 25, all the men her age are serious

and focused on their work. It’s great to meet someone that

knows how to have fun. Lots of women have fantasies about a

younger guy, they think that they can find someone more pure

who isn’t yet corrupted! Our trainers range from 19 to 35, and

they ALL pull women of any age they like because they don’t

see age as a factor. If you think it is a big deal, they will too, if

you don’t they won’t!

Belief:

I’m not good looking enough.

Second thought:

Men imagine that women put a huge emphasis on looks just

like we do. Women care much less about looks than you’d

think. Women want to be the prettier one in the relationship.

Most of what makes up a man’s attractiveness are his other

qualities: confidence, energy, manliness, alphaness, and

leadership. Good body language, improved fashion, and being

in state can add two points to your attractiveness overnight!

Once you are in an interaction, it is how you make her feel

that will determine whether she becomes yours or not.

Belief:

I need to be friendly and agreeable to make her like me.

Second thought:

People always talk about “gaining rapport” as finding things

in common with other people or even pretending to have

something in common or a common view. Women are much

more attracted to a man that is strong in his reality. His

viewpoint will be more valuable, his compliments will make

her happier, and his honesty will be very attractive.

Belief:

I need to compliment her a lot to show I like her.

Second thought:

Complimenting a girl is great, but it can also be approval

seeking. It is best to show her what you think of her nonverbally

and to never verbalise too much. By non-verbally

I mean the way you treat her and the way you look at her.

If she compliments you more than you do her, then this is

great. Compliments can be effective but they should come

from a position of power, not when you are unsure about the

relationship.

Belief:

It’s improper to make sexual remarks.

Second thought:

Confident guys communicate their confidence in various

ways, one is their comfort with their sexuality. They recognise

that they like sex, the woman likes sex, so it is fine to be

sexual. Guys don’t need to worry about being sleazy, if the

girl is attracted to you, it is impossible to be sleazy. Sexual

misinterpretation and talking about sex lead to a better sex

life, turn girls on, and sometimes bring in some humour. If we

are comfortable with sex and talking about sex, the woman

will be too. If we are not, she won’t be!