SOME MARRIAGES ARE CRISIS ORIENTED

Marriage is something most young men look forward to once they have a job and say proper accommodation. Well, I would say most young men because some young men feel marriage is a threat to their peace of mind.

Before one gets married, there are certain things to consider. Of course love plays an important role. Most people feel you should have known your partner for up to 2 years at least before thinking about marrying him or her, others think delay threatens progress.

There are marriages that are crisis oriented though and this crisis is mostly as a result of one’s background, foundation, religion and culture.

A catholic strong catholic man cannot marry a strong Jehovah witness woman on the basis of love and expect the marriage to last; a northerner cannot marry an easterner and expect perfect understanding; someone who grew up in a rural area cannot marry someone who has lived all her life being served by people and expect peace. I could go on.

You knew the rough; playboy lifestyle of a guy and maybe his violent nature and yet you feel love conquers all and you decide to get married to him, my dear, you are responsible for your action.

The women aren’t the only victims here. As a man if you notice your girlfriend's insatiable desire for sex and maybe she is closer and blends easier with guys. If you go ahead to marry such a person, it means you are prepared to face whatever the resultant might be.

There is a high tendency that such marriages won’t last.

There is this saying that a woman has no religion till she gets married bla bla bla..i think that is utter rubbish. Everyone has a lifestyle and anyone who doesn’t know where they belong “religious wise” as an adult has the tendency to keep wandering from place to place thereby constituting conflict in the home as well.

God has given us common sense. We should be able to see these things and act accordingly. When you are in love with a girl whose belief and background; religion is completely contrary to yours. You need to sit down with the person and talk about it because sometimes, LOVE ISN’T JUST ENOUGH.