SWEEP SOME LADIES OFF THEIR FEET(for those who need a manual)

1. Focus on her. When you’re with her, make sure that she’s got your attention 110%. Don’t take phone calls and texts, especially from other women, when you’re spending time with her. Don’t flirt with other women or dress to appeal to women other than her. Look in her eyes when she talks and practice active listening (responding to her as she talks and asking questions).

 2. Practice true chivalry. True chivalry is when you show her true respect. Do things like open doors for her because it’s the nice thing to do. Defend her because she shouldn’t have to defend herself to others. Take your woman’s side against your friends when they’re being jerks. And do all of this without putting pressure on her or having expectations. A good guy does these things because they’re the right thing to do, not because he expects to get laid later. Women expect guys to expect physical rewards for good behavior. Proving that idea wrong by letting her come to you will surprise her and make her happy.

 3. Don’t smack talk other people. Don’t be rude to other people or insult them behind their back. When you do this, you send the message to her that you might be doing the same to her. She’ll be especially impressed when you act like the adult and be the bigger person when other people are being jerks to you or when your friends are being really immature.

 4. Be helpful and respectful to vulnerable people. When we show respect to even the most vulnerable people around us, that says a lot about our character. It’s easy to make fun of or be mean to homeless people, mentally ill people, door-to-door salesmen, and waiters…and so many people often are. If you want to clearly send her the message that you’re a good guy, be nice to these people and help them when you can. 

5. Be a good tipper. Traditional tip amount in Naija is 20%, which is often calculated by simply doubling the tax.

 6. Be good around kids. Usually guys are thought of as being terrible with kids, so when you act great around them (even if you’re not really in to kids), she’ll be floored. Learn how to play with kids but remember: a lot of the time they just want to play the same “pretend” games that you did when you were young. Channel your inner pirate and you’ll be having fun with them before you know it....